Untethered

parental loss circles | starting September 2025

Losing a parent is life changing. Just because it’s the natural course of life, doesn’t mean it doesn’t leave you feeling shell-shocked. But I don’t have to tell you that.

I feel we’re a bit of an invisible group, us who have lost the person (or people) who have been with us since birth, but are now old enough to be that person to someone of our own. We’re too old to be fussed over like children, yet there is a child in us that was not ready (would never be ready) to let go of their parent(s).

It’s the strangest in between that can leave you feeling disoriented and alone as you fall between the cracks, seemingly invisible to the world that thinks -and perhaps says- it’s about time to get yourself together and move on.

Many of us have felt over the years that grief is something we have to carry alone. It’s not. There are places capable of holding it all, and there are people who get it.

These gatherings won’t fix anything and they sure as hell won’t bring them back. But they will help break the sense of overwhelming otherness and isolation you feel after losing your parent(s).

They will give you the space to voice what the world doesn’t seem to want to hear. To be seen and heard and met with not pity, advice, platitudes or toxic positivity, but recognition and compassionate understanding.

Your grief won’t be too much here.

  • 5 online circles of 1.5 hours each

  • starting September 2025

  • 5 consecutive Tuesdays or Thursdays, 7.30pm - 9pm CEST (exact dates t.b.d.)

  • with a small group of max. 8 people

  • exploring a different topic each week

  • a platitude and comparison-free space

  • English spoken

  • €55

What you can expect

“Parental loss is one of childhood’s most fervent and adulthood’s most abiding terrors. If our parents are still living, the fact that someone has lost a parent may make us a bit uncomfortable around them. They become different than we are, ever so slightly exotic. However, if our parents are also decease, those who have lost parents become like neighbours toward whom we feel indulgent and welcoming impulses.”

- Alexander Levy in The Orphaned Adult